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Why is it Over?
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Why do relationships end?
Sometimes people "grow apart", or the "magic" or "spark" is no longer there.
Sometimes, the cost of being with our partner gets too high. They are too critical, or they spend too much money. Sometimes, they are even violent and controlling, and we just canít handle it anymore.
...It's not you they can't handle anymore. It's the way they feel about themselves. They are not happy anymore and expect you to make them happy. A phrase that would better describe how they feel is
"Somewhere along the way I seem to have forgotten what I wanted to do with my life"<
When you criticize...it hurts them.
When you contradict them...it makes them feel bad.
When you spend more money than they are comfortable with - it proves that they aren't good enough providers.
They want out of the relationship because they no longer feel like the center of your universe. They no longer feel honored, they no longer believe they are important.
People need to feel important, honored and respected.
People have affairs - not because the woman is thinner, or younger, but because they no longer feel like a warrior king at home.
New relationships make you feel like you are the sexiest, smartest, funniest person on the face of the earth.
At home they just forget to take out the garbage and can't do the dishes well enough.
You get the idea.
Make your man feel like a Hero. Make your woman feel like a goddess.
OK ...so you've screwed that part up...a little. You nagged, criticized, neglected, taken for granted, made fifth on your priority list, forgotten and mildly abused the love-of-your-life-the-reason-for-your-existence.
...and they want a divorce.
Don't panic. You can get it back again.
All you have to do is make them feel like a HERO.
Yes, he's an overweight, lazy, sniveling little creep who complains all the time while he clips his toenails on the living room carpet while watching TV.
But you want him.
You don't want the divorce.
Change your glasses and see him like it's 3:AM and closing time and you don't want to go home alone. See him as the hottest thing you've ever laid eyes on.
And let him KNOW you feel that way.
Make him not want to clip his toenails in anyone else's living room.
People leave relationships because they don't feel important.
They don't feel respected.
Don't let that happen.